It is wrong, and yet it is also right. It transcends the petty limitations of mere human morality. You try to grab at it, fix it in one place, and yet it always slips away from you. It should not be — and yet, is it truly so awful? Can you not see how beautiful it is, in its way?
No! Look! You must see it, so that you can understand!!! The time demands that you not avert your eyes!!!!! I WILL OPEN YOUR INNER EYE SO THAT YOU CAN SEE —
:somebody knocks down door:
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I don’t think that works. The male version of that fantasy requires the devotion to be earned.
You can certainly have the love triangle, but not the protagonist as a passive Mary Sue.